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All right. Today, we’re gonna be talking about the power of belief. For me, I think belief is really the most important element of your life. It’s everything. It’s the lens through which we see ourselves. It’s how we see others. It’s how we see the world. And hence, it shapes our reality. The power of belief has been shown throughout history through people achieving uncommon results, and it’s even been shown to impact one’s health. Yet, I think for most of us, we spend so little time looking at our beliefs and really analyzing what beliefs are limiting us, and what beliefs are actually beneficial to us.
So today, I’m gonna dive in a little bit more. I’m probably gonna be spending at least a few episodes on just discussing belief and why it’s so important. So, I wanna start by sharing some of my favorite quotes on belief. So, Henry Ford … right? Henry Ford has got a lot of great quotes, but one of my favorite ones from Henry Ford is, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” So, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” I’ve been following that quote, or been thinking of that quote, for such a long time. It really resonates with me because I see it all the time.
There’s people that automatically classify themselves as, “Nope. That’s not something I can do. I’m not good at that,” or whatever it is. There’s not even a thought about it. It’s just a strongly held belief that they have, that that’s not something for them. They’re not good at it. They were once told that they weren’t good at it. Whatever it may be, they’re fearful of whatever it may be, that they don’t like to be in the public eye. Whatever it is. But, as soon as they think they can or think they can’t, they automatically limit themselves. You really narrow your results. You know, you don’t tend to venture outside your belief set of what you believe is possible for you, or that is really inline with how you see your life going. That’s fine, but it’s important to know that those are your bumpers. Right?
You’ve probably heard me, if you’ve listened to some of the previous episodes, me talking about how our thoughts, our emotions, our actions are like the water of a river. Well, the core beliefs, the underlying core beliefs, are the bedrock or the foundation of that river, and that’s what actually directs your life. That’s what directs your emotions, your thoughts, your actions. People often think that they can’t control their emotions, but it’s just not true. When something happens and you have a stimulus, the emotion that you generate is based on what you’re telling yourself about that instance. Right? It doesn’t just happen that something happens and then you get emotional from it. It’s that your perception of that, and your belief around that, tells you how you should feel. I should feel this way about that, because of my past experiences tell me I should feel this way about that. So how you control your emotions, how you control your actions, is by framing what it is in beliefs that are actually beneficial for you.
One other quote I wanna talk about, which Napoleon Hill … if you haven’t read the book Think and Grow Rich, I’d highly recommend that. I’ve read it a few times over the last 20 years. It’s good to kinda go back to it. I don’t remember exactly when it was written, but I know it was written a long time ago, and it’s still a classic today. But Napoleon Hill said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Whatever you can come up with in your mind, and you can believe it, you can achieve it.
Let’s talk about belief a little bit. Because belief is such a large topic, I wanna narrow it in a little bit more. So for today, what I’m really focusing on is an individual’s core beliefs. Right? These are beliefs that we hold about ourselves, about others, about the world in general. Right? Core beliefs about ourselves most often start with an “I” statement, like I’m a funny person, I am a smart person, I am big boned, I have a hard time opening up to others, I am beautiful, or I am ugly. All of these are core beliefs. When we say them, and a lot of time what’ll happens is you’ll pay a little more attention to this, you’ll start to notice yourself sometimes saying things that’ll just come out. Because core beliefs are so far under the surface, they often aren’t something that you readily notice as you’re going through. So you’ll say something, and unless you’re kinda conscious about it, you won’t even realize it.
I often would say, “I’m big boned,” or, “I have a different metabolism. It’s harder for me to lose weight.” Right? And so, it doesn’t matter. Those are actually true, right? Like, it doesn’t necessarily matter the truth or non-truth of that statement. It’s more of, is that benefiting you? Are you saying that, and are you using it as an excuse? So, I often found myself for a while in that, where it just came out. It was like, “Oh, yeah. I have a hard metabolism. It’s hard for me to lose weight.” That was an excuse, and it’d just come out, ’cause that was a core belief I had about myself.
Well, okay, yeah. I do have a little different metabolism, maybe I’m big boned, whatever it is. That doesn’t matter. That shouldn’t stop me from being in good shape. Right? That shouldn’t stop me from being where I want to be, regardless of, “Oh, it’s a little more challenging for me.” So, there’s the same thing that happens though. Our core beliefs are often formed from things that we’ve learned since we were children. Right? So, we pick up core beliefs from our parents, from our friends, from our teachers. I remember I had a teacher that once told me that he never thought I’d amount to anything. Luckily, I didn’t take that in and actually develop that as a core belief. ‘Cause a teacher’s in a position of power, and they can have a lot of effect the children that they work with. And so, it’s important, just like a parent, it’s critical that you instill good core beliefs in the children that you have influence on. Right?
I’ll talk about that a little bit more from a parent’s standpoint, since I’m a parent of two amazing children, and kinda some of the stuff I try to do there. But, I mainly want you to think about in this initial episode, how powerful beliefs are. The belief, you know, it’s the reason we get up in the morning. It’s the reason we go to work. It’s the reason we love the person we love. I mean, belief is everything in our lives. Without belief, we don’t really have much of anything.
Once you get the gravity of the importance of beliefs, then we can kind of come back around and start looking at and analyzing what beliefs … you know, if you’re wanting to get from point A to point B, or if you’re wanting to live your life in a certain way, what type of beliefs do you need to develop? What type of beliefs do you have currently that are limiting you from doing that? What type of beliefs do you need to develop to get you to that point, to your goal? It’s not that hard, really, when you think about it. It’s just a matter of kind of reverse engineering. Okay, like if I want to be a conductor, you know, I have to look at that and go, “Okay,” conceive of the idea, see where I’m at. Can I believe it? So, I have to do all my research and really understand it, and then set out to achieve it. And then, I have to look at what kind of beliefs … interview other conductors. I have to look at who’s successful. All those kind of things, right?
So, Let’s talk a little bit about supporting beliefs, ’cause a core belief is like a table top. The more stable, the more strong a core belief is, the more supporting beliefs that has. And so, supporting beliefs are like the legs of that table. A supporting belief often comes in the form of … the core belief might be, “I’m smart.” Well, a supporting belief is, “I always get good grades. You know people have told me I’m smart, and I was in the top 5% of my class, so therefore I’m smart.” Right? There’s all these supporting beliefs that put that around.
Now, the opposite is true, as well. A person can say, “I’m dumb,” and that could be because they’ve heard that throughout their life. Their parents tell them, “Don’t be stupid. Why do you always make these dumb mistakes?” The teacher told them, “You’re horrible at this,” whatever it is. Right? That they don’t get good grades. So, that’s how it is. Now again, you can look at that and go are they have that core belief I am dumb because they’re getting bad grades? Or, are they getting bad grades because they have the core belief that I am dumb? All right? So, it’s a little bit of the chicken and egg kind of thing. Obviously, both have an involvement there, but I can guarantee you the person who is getting good grades has a belief in the value of getting good grades, and they have other beliefs that are supporting them towards getting those good grades. They’re seeking recognition and importance through those things.
Now, there’s times when someone who’s striving to get good grades and that’s, for them, is they have such a high belief and that the importance of that, but then they have other beliefs that are negative in that area. I’m not putting importance on getting good grades or anything like that, per se. I’m saying that that’s what people do sometimes.
What are some other core beliefs? I think a lot of people have limiting core beliefs around what they can do. Like, public speaking is one that I think a lot of people immediately shy away from. Right? Because I think one of our biggest fears is public embarrassment. So when you put yourself in that position, immediately people start sweating and start thinking and fidgeting and going, “You know what? That’s not something I wanna do. I’m not a good public speaker. I’m not a public speaker,” or whatever it is. And so, they reinforce, right?
It’s like these canals that you continue to chop away at and put more concrete on those canals so they’re unmovable in your thought patterns. So, you create these canals, these almost patterns of thought around certain things, and then you reinforce them with the language that you use with the beliefs that you have in those moments. But, it doesn’t take anything but a simple change in belief, or a question, to change your direction to find out and say, “You know what? Have I ever really tried to really go after public speaking and actually do it? No.” Right? So, why would you say, “I’m not a public speaker”? So then, you can start analyzing those things and getting through that.
Ask yourself why is belief so powerful. Belief is something that can build a country, or tear it down. Right? Belief will stop you in your tracks, or it can start the fire that lights the way for you. Right? Belief is that foundation of everything, and hence, it guides our entire life. There’s so many stories about the power of belief.
I think her name was Kelly … Kelly something. Kelly McGonigal, I think it was, did a talk on … it was like How To Make Stress Your Friend, or it was something about, that stress wasn’t negative basically. Anyway, she was a psychologist, I think, at Stanford. I listened to her talk and I found it really interesting, because in her talk, she was talking about how she felt like through working with people for a good part of her life, she had steered them wrong; because she had always been telling them over and over, that stress is a killer, stress will kill you, it can make you sick, and stress is bad for you. She was doing all these things, and now she feels like she needs some kind of repentance to some extent.
Because through a study that was done, they determined … they asked this large group of people. It was a fairly large sample size. They asked this large group of people their different beliefs on stress, whether they thought stress was bad for them, whether they didn’t really feel it was bad for them or negative, those kind of things. And then, they studied … over a long period of time, they looked at the medical records, they looked at the health history, death records, all those kind of things. And so, the interesting finding was that one, people with higher stress that believed that stress was bad for you, did have a higher rate of illness. They had a higher rate of death than the people who didn’t have a lot of stress, that believed stress was bad for them. The huge surprise in the study was the group of people that believed that stress wasn’t bad for them, they didn’t feel that stress was negative on them, and that they still had a high level of stress. They actually lived longer. They were healthier.
This kind of blew people’s minds away, because it wasn’t the stress. I wasn’t the stress that was bad for them. It was the belief that stress was bad for them that was actually affecting them. That is how powerful belief is. It can literally change our physiological response to things based on what we believe. Right? Like, you can be more calm in a situation based on your beliefs. If I’m going up to speak in front of a large group of people and I’m feeling a little bit of that stress rising, I can feel like that’s giving me the energy and it’s making me ready to go out there on stage. I just know that that’s gonna happen, ’cause I’ve done it a number of times.
There’s also tons and tons of stories that just blow my mind around, like, multiple personality disorders. There’s been multiple cases of people who have multiple personality disorders, and in one personality, that personality may have diabetes. The other personality, they don’t have diabetes. When they’re in that personality, like when they’re in that specific disorder, they’re in that specific personality, they’re tested and they come up as diabetic. When they’re not, they come up as not diabetic. Or, that they’re allergic. Like, there’s tons of ones where they’re allergic to one thing in the personality disorder, and then the other one, they’re not allergic. That’s their belief.
Now, I’m not saying that you just go out there and believe that I can fly, and you’re gonna fly. You know, don’t jump that far end of the spectrum. Just understand that the power of belief, it affects us; not only our trajectory in life and our happiness and everything about us, but it also affects physiologically, as well.
There’s been … I don’t remember his name, but it was a famous case of … he was Greek. He was diagnosed with cancer, told he had, I think, six or nine months to live. He was talking about going through chemo treatment therapy. He decided, “Well, since I only have nine months to live, I’m not gonna do that. I’m gonna go back to my hometown in Greece.” He went back to his hometown in Greece. I wanna say he was in his 60s at that age. And so, he wanted to live his last few months in Greece. And so, he went there and connected with some of his old friends and family. They heard what was happening. They came over and started playing games with him. He started doing gardening and other things, and just really enjoying his life, and just focusing on some of the finer things in life. I wanna say he lived to be over 100 at that time.
This is all to kind of impact upon you the power of belief, right? In a future episode, I’m gonna go more into limiting beliefs. I’m gonna talk about how to really dive in and analyzed and understand your limiting beliefs. Because no matter where you’re at in life, I can guarantee you, you have beliefs that are impacting you negatively in your life. That’s fine, and who knows if we’ll ever get to the point where we have no beliefs that are having a negative impact on our life. That seems unlikely. But what you can do, is you can continue working on improving the beliefs that are beneficial for you. You can find those limiting beliefs, and you can say, “You know what?” You identify this belief, and you go, “Gosh.” It is extremely hard. I think, as a person, you feel very vulnerable as you start to find some of these things. It is challenging because you go, “You know what? That’s not the kind of person I identify with in my mind of who I am, but here I am saying these things that show that under the surface, I’m still maybe not as confident as I’d like to be, or as I think I am.” You know? Or, “Under the surface, I still may have this fear that everything’s gonna be pulled out from under me at the last second. Right?
So, there’s all these kind of beliefs that we have, and I want you to analyzed those and go, “You know what? I have this belief. Why do I have this belief?” And you start looking back and going, “You know what? Different experiences throughout my life kinda led me to this point.”
My wife and I just got back from Thailand, so I have to apologize. My goal was to record a podcast every single week. We were in Thailand. I actually brought my computer and microphone and everything, and I was planning on recording a couple episodes while I was there, but my computer just stopped working for some reason. And so, I didn’t record any episodes while I was there. And so, I’m gonna catch up a little bit, and get back on track here. Unfortunately, life happens.
Speaking of life experiences and those forming strong beliefs, we had a pretty scary experience while we were there. First of all, Thailand is amazing. We went to Bangkok initially, and we didn’t plan on spending a lot of time there, because for us, it was a big city and we didn’t think we really needed to spend a lot of time there. We wanted to see other parts, and so we only spent one full day there. Had a lot of fun. It was beautiful. Then, we went up Chiang Mai. It’s farther north in Thailand. It was beautiful. Amazing people there. Did a cooking class, did zip lining, and just had a great time. Both my wife and I love Chiang Mai.
And then, we went from there to Phuket, and we were in Phuket for five days. Phuket was amazing. A little bit more of a city feel, but it was also on the beach, on the coast, so you’d have the nice breeze. The place we stayed at was amazing, Le Meridien in Phuket, which they took phenomenal care of us. Had tons of fun there. And then, we went to our last and our favorite place, was Koh Samui. Koh Samui is an island, and I would kinda compare it to a Hawaiian island, but in Thailand. So, you have this amazing tropical island feel, but you have 1/40th the cost, maybe 1/20th the cost. The Thai baht is much different than … their currency is much different than, say, the U.S. dollar. Depending on where you’re at, your money will go a lot farther than in most places.
What a lot of people do on the island though, and in much of Thailand, is they drive scooters around. It’s a great way to get around the island. It’s very inexpensive, and you’ll see a family of four on a scooter. You know, it’s interesting. One of the things that really opened up my eyes while I was there is, many of us, our day-to-day lives we often look at and go, “I don’t have this. I don’t have this.” You have these people in Thailand just loving life. They have this amazing love for life, and just positive, friendly nature. Here they are, four of them, riding on a scooter, a dad and husband. Dad and husband? Maybe. But, a husband and wife and two kids on a scooter, riding down the street, like taking them to school or something like that.
It just kind of blew my mind, because here we are driving in a car and going, “You know what?” Again, it all forms from our belief and what we feel we need to make us happy. Right? “I believe I should have this Lexus car, and then I’ll be happy with that,” and that never makes you happy, because things don’t make us happy. Right? Not in the long run.
So, we got on a scooter. We were having a great time driving around the island. We were like, “Why didn’t we do this way back when?” Because we were paying taxis and things like that. We got on a scooter, and we were driving around town, having a great time. Unfortunately, most of the scooters were gone by the time we got one, and we asked the hotel, “Could you find us a scooter?” And they said, “Sure.” And so, I think we got kind of one of the last picks of the liter, so to speak, and the breaks were not good basically. If we were going 30 miles an hour, and I squeezed the front and back break as hard as I could, it’d probably take us a good 40-50 feet to stop. Like, pretty bad.
So, I was being careful. I was staying back from cars as much as I could, but you know, people drive a little crazy over there. That’s just how it is. So, we’re driving down the street, and all of a sudden we hear screeching brakes and crashing cars, and there’s an accident in front of us. Cars are sliding, and one car tries to basically avoid another car. Here we are on the left, and we’re basically about to get squished between this car and the side rail. Right?
And so, my wife is on the back and I’m on the front. I’m sitting there trying to squeeze the break, so that we don’t end up in there, but realizing that we don’t have the time and the breaks aren’t working very well. I decided to take the alternate route, because the side rail actually was going to end in about 15 feet or so. And so, I sped up a little bit, and as the car was pushing over towards us and we could kind start almost touching the car on the side, at the very last second, I heard the foothold, or the foot stand … not the foot stand, but where my wife puts her feet basically. I heard that just barely scrape the side of the rail as we went by, and I thought, “Oh.” We just barely made it, right?
As I look up there, there was a couple that were on the ground. They were on a scooter, crashed. They were getting up, so they were okay, but they obviously had burns all over their legs and things like that from some of the scratches and sliding down, things like that. I thought, “Wow. We just barely made it through that.” And so, I kinda maneuvered around.
I asked my wife Jenny, I said, “Are you okay? Everything all right?” I hear it in her voice. She’s starting to tear up and she says, “No.” She’s like, “Let’s just go back to the hotel.” I look back, and I look down at her leg and her foot, and there’s blood all over her foot. So, those little footholds you put your foot on, well, it’s an island, we had flip flops on. Her foot was kind of a little bit on the side of that, and so as we went her over, her foot actually hit that side rail. The side of her leg actually scraped … the side rail actually took off a good portion, probably five layers or so, of skin on the side of her calf. And so, we couldn’t tell if, at that time, how deeply it was cut. There was a good amount of blood. Or, if it was broken or what.
Long story short, well, shorter. We head back to the hotel. The people at the hotel, the Le Meridien in Koh Samui were amazing. They took care of us and actually brought in a taxi, or actually one of their private cars, took us to the hospital, and Jenny got all taken care of. The hospital in Koh Samui was amazing, like, great care. I think the whole thing, x-rays, everything, the doctor visit, all that stuff, ended up being like $250 dollars U.S., so much cheaper and great care. Much cheaper than the U.S.
When all was said and done with that, I mean, Jenny didn’t let it really impact her vacation or anything. She was a super trooper, and just a strong woman. I’m sure she was in a lot of pain, but she still had a good time. We still did a lot of fun things after that. That night, we actually still got on the scooter. We weren’t gonna go very far, and we were gonna take it very easy. We went up and got dinner at this place called Doctor Frogs. Great little, I’d say Thai-talian. They have Thai and Italian food. The chef’s Italian.
Long story short, his food was amazing. While we’re having dinner, we hear the screeching of brakes, and then serious crunching of metal. Much worse than the first crash we heard. I knew at that moment that it was a pretty bad accident. I actually walked outside and looked at the accident. I took a little bit of time, because I knew it was gonna be bad and I didn’t want to … with what we’d been through, I wanted to help, but I didn’t want to … There was an ambulance that got there pretty quickly, and they were taking someone off in the ambulance. I saw that their foot was moving, and so they were obviously alive at that point, and that was good. But then, they had someone else that they were doing CPR on, and we’re pretty sure that that person didn’t make it.
You know, when you have an experience like that, it creates a very strong core belief. Right? This core belief around the potential for a lot of pain. Right? A lot of our beliefs are around what will bring us pain or pleasure, and that’s why we do or don’t do certain things. So, when you have an experience like this, all the sudden, you have this strong core belief that’s like, “You know what?” Like, we were done at that point. We said, “You know what? No more.” We gave the scooter back. If we were gonna go somewhere, we took a taxi or did whatever at that point, because neither of us wanted to potentially be in that position. Right?
The same thing happens in our life when you have a traumatic experience. Right? A lot of people who have gone through very tough times or had very tough experiences in their life, they have these incredibly strong core beliefs that are supported by these experiences, that it’s much harder to change. That doesn’t mean it’s not possible to change. Any belief is possible to change. One of those myths is that the older you get, that you can’t change your beliefs. You’re just stuck that way. That’s been disproven for a long time. We have what scientists refer to as neuroplasticity, and we can actually, as we change our beliefs, the way our connections, our neurons actually fire and connect, actually changes. Over time, those pathways change.
So, it literally is true that when you have these strong beliefs, they create these pathways over time, and those pathways are easier to happen, and changing those are harder, but that can still happen. Right? So, what I would suggest, I think, that people get to is, rather than just letting your life go on as all the beliefs that have been imprinted on you, that have been given to you against your will, or not against your will, but without your knowledge in a lot of ways, that you, living with those beliefs, is that you look at where you want your life to be. What you want your life to be like. Don’t look at is as a destination, but just look at it as the experience of life, right?
People a lot of times think their happiness is related to a position in life. It’s not. Happiness is a habit of how you think about happiness. If you, in your mind, believe that you need a car and you need a big house and you need all this money to be happy, guess what? You’re not gonna be happy until you get to that point, and then you’re gonna realize, “Wow. None of this stuff actually makes me happy.” ‘Cause it’s not about getting something to make you happy, right? Happiness is a belief we have about ourselves, and it’s something we can create every day.
So, look at how you want to live your life every day. If you wanna be in this great state every day, you wanna have a positive impact on people, whatever it is, understand those things, and then start to look at the beliefs that would actually support living that lifestyle, living that way; and start creating those beliefs, understand that the core belief is like a tabletop and that the actual legs of the table are supporting beliefs, so you want to put supporting beliefs under these core beliefs to create really strong foundational beliefs that will help you get to that point. Right?
So what happens is, when you consciously start choosing your beliefs, it empowers you beyond what you can possibly probably imagine at this point, that it opens up all of the possibilities. I have to think of it like, if you’ve seen the movie The Matrix, where once he realizes that … in one of the episodes he says, “You have to realize there is no spoon.” And the spoon bends in his mind, because he’s in the Matrix. This isn’t reality, right? Well, our mind, our belief structure, our senses are the same exact thing. You have these mental constructs in your mind, but they’re just mental constructs and you can change those things. It’s about changing your core beliefs and changing the supporting beliefs that are underneath that.
Now, that takes time and practice, but the better you get, the more flexibility you get there. The more practice you get changing your beliefs, it becomes easier to kind of be flexible in your mindset and change beliefs according to what will actually be beneficial to you and to the people around you in the world. Right?
I want to end, like I do with every episode, with a micro-action. And so, I want you to write in your note tool. If you, in listening to previous episodes, you already have this; if this is a new episode to you, it’s best to start at the beginning, and kinda start here. One of the things that I ask you to do is do a micro-action in each episode. In one of the first episodes, I have you use a note tool. In that note tool, it’s just a daily reminder that pops up. And so, you can do something like Google Keep or any kind of of notepad that has a reminder option.
And so, in a notepad like that, or if you just have paper, write it on paper. I want you to write down two lines. One is Beneficial Core Beliefs, and the other is Limiting Core Beliefs. So, over time what I want you to do is, as things come to mind … I mean, you can spend some time doing it right now if you want. Just right, the micro-action is really there to just give you something super simple that you can do and take action. So for now, I just want you to write down Beneficial Core Belief and Limiting Core Belief.
And then as things pop in your mind, you can open up your notepad and say, “You know what? I just said something I realized must be under the surface somewhere for me that I said that was a limiting core belief. I said I am not good at that. Well, let me write down what that is. I am not good at this. Well, what is it that I’m not good at? I’m not good at conflicts, maybe it was. Maybe I’m not good at talking to people in general. Maybe it’s I’m not good at talking to strangers or introducing myself, or I’m not good in public situations or I’m not good at a cocktail party,” whatever it is. Those are like limiting core beliefs that, when you say them, when you say that, you’re reinforcing this core belief that you hold.
And so first, you wanna identify that and realized, “Do I wanna continue reinforcing this?” ‘Cause I guarantee you, you could be good at it if you wanted to. So, why not maybe use it that way? Why don’t you say, “You know, right now I necessarily don’t wanna do that.” ‘Cause the language we use is important. I’m gonna be doing a specific episode specifically on the language and words we use and how they either free our mind, or they limit us in a lot of ways. Over time, as you’re writing those down, you’ll see, “Hey. I have these other core beliefs that are maybe more beneficial.” One of the ones that I’m most thankful for, that my mother impressed upon me, is that she always told me, she said … and I apologize. I said I’d talk more about from a parent’s standpoint, like instilling core beliefs. And so, I’ll talk about that a little bit.
But one of the things my mother always told me was, she always said, “You can do anything you want, if you put your mind and your heart into it.” And I heard that from her many times throughout my life. I believe that whole heartedly. I feel like that’s one of the most beneficial beliefs I have because … again, brand new to podcasting. I’m a newb. You can probably tell to some extent. But as a whole, I always figured, yeah, I can pretty much learn anything. If it’s important to me and I wanna really get into it, I can do it, I can learn it. Right?
A lot of people don’t have that belief. So, it’s trying to do something new that’s outside of their comfort zone’s extremely hard. So, if you wanna instill a core belief in someone, instill that core belief that they can do anything that they put their heart and mind into if they’re willing to work hard enough. Right? If they’re willing to work hard enough, and they’re gonna put their mind and heart into it, they can achieve that. I think as a parent, it’s critical that we instill these core beliefs in our children, and that we make our love for them unconditional, not based on grades, not based on performance in any one thing, that we let them know that they have our love unconditionally for everything, and that we instill strong core beliefs in them.
I wanted to touch on that a little bit. I can go into more at another point. I guess for now, start writing those down as you go through. Feel free to share with me if you have any limiting core beliefs that pop up. I say in the next couple episodes, I’ll do one specifically on how to analyze your core beliefs in more depth, and then how to kinda address and change those beliefs going forward.
Again, thank you for your time and being on this path with me, and make it a wonderful day.
